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sylkeWe found a little junko today that had apparently run into one of our big windows and hurt itself since it was huddled in a corner and unable to fly. It looked like its wing was broken, and since we weren't really sure what else to do, we left it there until Cindy (first cousin once removed) got back since she'd dealt with hurt animals like that before. By then it was trying to make a break for the woods, where it would probably have died a slow, painful death, not being able to fly away from the 5 cats on our property, so we tried to catch it and take it to the Pet Emergency Treatment center to be treated if possible or, more likely, humanely euthanized. This is the part I felt really bad about: I think it hurt itself more while it was running from us, and instead of dying calmly in the woods, it died from shock in more pain and abject terror in a dark little shoebox. We never made it to the emergency center.
This incident actually served to highlight something that I've been thinking about between me and Nathan. Nathan isn't sentimental in the least. He's not really big on doing the (hopeless) romantic thing, so I rarely get flowers, he doesn't get all mushy at movies, we do pretty little in the way of public displays of affection, and in general he's very ... practical. I on the other hand get very emotional easily, I love flowers, and I don't mind making a special trip to a hospital to keep a little wild bird from suffering a few more hours. He thinks that's okay, but probably wouldn't have done it himself. He's just not very sentimental like that. I mentioned to Mom, not expecting a real answer, that I wanted to find a way to make Nathan more sentimental. She said I couldn't, that I'd just have to accept him the way he is (which I have, actually), and hang out more with women so I can still be sentimental. Which, while it sounds kind of trivial, is a good point. I've been losing some of my sentimentality as Nathan and I become more like each other. I'm starting to toughen up a bit (which is good, since I've always been a bit overly sensitive), but I don't want to lose the part of me that likes getting all sentimental. I don't think I have, and I probably won't lose it no matter what, but the fact is that I find my personality starting to merge with Nathan's and that's not good. I need to keep my own identity and quit subconsciously acting more like him. I don't even realize what I'm doing most of the time.
This incident actually served to highlight something that I've been thinking about between me and Nathan. Nathan isn't sentimental in the least. He's not really big on doing the (hopeless) romantic thing, so I rarely get flowers, he doesn't get all mushy at movies, we do pretty little in the way of public displays of affection, and in general he's very ... practical. I on the other hand get very emotional easily, I love flowers, and I don't mind making a special trip to a hospital to keep a little wild bird from suffering a few more hours. He thinks that's okay, but probably wouldn't have done it himself. He's just not very sentimental like that. I mentioned to Mom, not expecting a real answer, that I wanted to find a way to make Nathan more sentimental. She said I couldn't, that I'd just have to accept him the way he is (which I have, actually), and hang out more with women so I can still be sentimental. Which, while it sounds kind of trivial, is a good point. I've been losing some of my sentimentality as Nathan and I become more like each other. I'm starting to toughen up a bit (which is good, since I've always been a bit overly sensitive), but I don't want to lose the part of me that likes getting all sentimental. I don't think I have, and I probably won't lose it no matter what, but the fact is that I find my personality starting to merge with Nathan's and that's not good. I need to keep my own identity and quit subconsciously acting more like him. I don't even realize what I'm doing most of the time.
